Phizzy - I remember getting the Bible out and showing a man various scriptures. He was very interested and invited us in. He did not realise we were Witnesses because we actually were using the Bible! When he understood, he explained why he did not like the Witnesses. It was because his aunt had been a cruelly beaten wife and nothing had been done about it.
It was only later I found out that wife-beating had gone on in the congregation I had been part of. An elder had been beating his wife. This is why you have to leave in the end. If you stay in you are not associating with Christians but with people who are turning a blind-eye to all sorts of wrong doing. Decent people cannot assist with such a cover-up.
In the congregation, you are expected to keep quiet and told the elders are the ones appointed to deal with the matter. These sorts of things are hidden from the new-comer.
Also how many knew of the massive child abuse cover up? Are congregation members allowed to speak about it now? This sister was disfellowshipped in 2019 for simply mentioning the child abuse cover up.